One of the major confusion with today’s generation is to find answer to this question, should they have a single child or two kids? Well i personally feel that in the current scenario later in the future single child will not be a problem at all. What i personally feel is that this situation will change in the same way as it has changed with the philosophy for girl child. People used to feel that if they have a girl child they should definitely go for another child and keep going till the time they have a boy. But things have changed and now girls are no less than boys and if a couple is having a girl child they are more than happy with it and don’t try to male child anymore.
Same way in the future single child will no longer be different. Having one child or more depends on lot of factors. How much are you involved with your child? how is your child? what are your desires for your child? do you want to have a second child? how is our financial condition? Looking at all the parameters i don’t feel that there is any harm in having a single child.
You have to develop a socially active child. Every Time you will not be around neither the sibling, but someone will be there. Your child should be able to mix up with that someone. We humans are social animals, we need people for our growth. In the form of family, siblings, relatives, friends. At the same time just see that your child is mingling enough with other kids. Be it friends or cousins, so that they get their share of ventilation. As after a certain age they will not like to open with you. So, they should be close enough with their cousins, friends to feel free and feel light. But at the same time be your child’s best friend, as the friends and siblings can listen them but they can’t guide them. But as a parent you can listen as well as guide them. So no matter how close anybody is to your you have to be the closet. Nobody can play your part. So, be the best friend of your child and let others be her friend.
We have to break the taboo that having one child is like doing something wrong with your child. You took this decision so that you can give the best to your child. So keep living up to your promise. Stop feeling guilty about this feeling. We are not doing any harm to them. What we need to focus on is to make them emotionally strong, to be independent.
Having a sibling is no shortcut to effective parenting it is only for their moral support. That moral support can come from you. And those who say they need a sibling when you are no more with them. I feel they will have their own set of responsibilities by that time. New set of people in their life to live with. Leave them to let them live not to feel worried.
Live the life the way it comes to you if at any point you feel your child needs someone, give it a thought. Otherwise you are not doing any crime by opting for a single child.
A child is a miracle, they are the most precious gift to us by the almighty. Give them your best, bring out the best out of them and let them be happy. One child or two hardly makes a difference according to me. What makes the difference is their confidence and happiness.
Lets peep inside our child a little and see where her happiness lies. Just have a look I am sure you will find an answer.