Every parent I meet or even when I see deep within me, I feel how possessive we are about are kids. We are actually not letting them grow. We want them to be close to us. We want to monitor their activity, guide them at every moment. But I feel we are not doing the right thing to our children whether in their tender age or when they grow up. We need to learn to let go.
We need to let go our kids, to be independent. We need to allow them to make mistakes. We are too careful as we have a single child or at the max two. We are monitoring them always. It is hampering their growth. We need to mold are children in a way that even if we are not around they can survive. They don’t need to look for someone’s support, teach them to be independent.
Learn to take a back seat. Once you feel you have done your job as a parent take a back seat. Sit back relax leave your children alone, don’t interfere in their decisions. Don’t be over cautious. Life is a journey, we need to keep learning in it. Just move on with the flow. Trust yourself. Trust your teachings, that your child will be good.The foundation that you laid is strong don’t worry too much.
When kids grow up we start being demanding with them. They have their own life, their own troubles, don’t impose your troubles on them. Be available to them in time of need but don’t depend on them.
Your child is an independent soul, you are a source for her to come in this world. Nurture her talents, be her friend, tell the best of the things, enjoy every moment with them, but don’t be a burden to them. Everybody has only one life and everyone has only one moment let them enjoy that.
They are a part of your life not your life, live life happily. Always remember children are your life but they have their own life too. Whether your child is infant, kid, teenager or an adult, they have their own choices, they have their own life. respect their life and they will respect yours. Be a guide to them not a stick which is always sticking around.
They want your suggestions and not your judgement. So respect your role and understand the importance of your own life. Your life is above anything else. Your child changes your life and you change her life. So handle it carefully!!